After significant weight loss, friends, coworkers and acquaintances will start noticing your new found body. They will feel like it is time for them to compliment you on your new fit body. How can you accept these compliments without being rude or seeming awkward?
People around me noticed my weight loss and positive changes about my body way sooner than I have. It was annoying for a while to address their compliments and answer their questions about my fit body, and I hated it. But looking back I see now that their comments and questions helped me a lot with my mental barriers of accepting my new fit body.
Why people compliment on your weight loss success
I bet you want to know why someone is giving you a compliment on your weight loss. If you think that the person who complimented on your looks wants something from you, you will less likely believe the compliment. All this can make you interpret the compliment in a totally different way than it was intended.
Getting fit and losing weight affects not just your looks and attitude but also the perception of how others see you. There will be a change in people’s attitudes towards the new fit you.
“Sir, I noticed your large beer belly has vanished! You look awesome!” Smiles: “Thank you sir for noticing my fat crying.”
Part of their changed view comes from the fact that your looks have changed, and that change in your body becomes noticeable at a first glance to others. The other reason for from the fact that it’s not just your body that changed, but your attitude as well. Your improved self confidence you’ve gained with regular workout shines through.
These are just some of the reasons why you are drawing wanted (or unwanted) attention of your friends and acquaintances. You may find this to be pleasing, and it can even give you a temporary boost in motivation to workout harder. On the other hand, if you are like me, you will find all this sudden rush of attention unwelcome and have mixed feelings about people who unexpectedly shower you with compliments, and struggle with finding the best way to deal with all that sincere or false openness.
Some people will be thrilled about your success, because you’ve accomplished what they are just hoping to achieve one day. As may it be fascinating for you at first to hear the compliments, you will grow tired of them soon after. Especially when you realize that what they say is actually a reflection of their own biases, self-doubt and flaws.
How you are currently dealing with compliments about your weight loss
Until now, you’ve dealt with compliments about your successful weight loss in one of the 3 possible ways:
Rejecting the compliment
Deflecting the compliment
Accepting the compliment
How you are dealing with a compliment about your successful weight loss tells about you a lot.
The way you deal with compliments reflects your level of self-esteem and self-worth. [Tweet this!]
If compliments on your successful weight loss make you feel uncomfortable, it is because the compliments contradicts your own self-view.
1. Rejecting a compliment
“- Wow! You’ve lost a lot of weight! You look great!”
“- No, I don’t look great.”
When it comes to compliments about your looks, an inner fat girl makes you deny that the flattery could be true.
If you have high self-esteem then you will reject the compliment because you want to be perceived as modest.
Just imagine how it feels for the other person when he or she says something nice with his or her best intentions, and you reject it. This is the worst you can do. You undermine the compliment or insult the compliment giver by rejecting a compliment about your weight loss.
2. Deflecting the compliment
There are 3 ways to deflect a compliment about your successful weight loss:
Self-insult:
“- Wow! You’ve lost a lot of weight! You look great!”
“- No, I did not lose a lot of weight. My lose clothing makes me look like I’ve lost a lot of weight, but trust me, I am still fat under it.”
Denial:
“- Wow! You’ve lost a lot of weight! You look great!”
“- No, I don’t. Look, I have batwings under my arms.”
Boomerang:
“- Wow! You’ve lost a lot of weight! You look great!”
“- You look amazing too! Is that a new necklace you’re wearing?”
“I love your t-shirt!” “Umm…look at this pebble.”
The problem with deflecting a compliment abut your successful weight loss is that you give the impression that you don’t respect the opinion of the person who gave you the compliment. You should return the compliment, but not right away. Say something nice about the person who gave you the compliment about your successful weight loss the next time you two meet.
3. Accepting the compliment
Your best bet is to just accept the compliment about your successful weight loss that has been given you.
“- Wow! You’ve lost a lot of weight! You look great!”
“- Thanks, that’s very kind of you!”
If you want to follow it up with an explanation of how you’ve worked hard for looking like this, feel free.
Actually, accepting a compliment about your successful weight loss is a compliment for itself. By accepting the compliment someone gave you, you are suggesting them that you trust their judgement, wisdom and opinion, and you appreciate what they have to say.
Lesson on how to accept a compliment about weight loss
Even if you don’t agree with a compliment, you should take it gracefully. Respect the compliment giver by accepting the compliment. Say this if you are accepting a compliment on your successful weight loss if you don’t agree with what the other person said about you:
“Thank you”, “Thank you very much”
“Thanks, I appreciate that.”
“Thanks, that’s a lovely thing to say.”
“Thanks, that makes me feel good.”
“Thanks, that means a lot to me.”
“Thanks, you’re very kind.”
If you agree with a compliment given to you about your successful weight loss, accept the compliment by saying the following things:
“Thanks. I’m really glad you noticed that I’ve lost significant weight because it’s something I’m proud of too.”
“Thanks! I trained really hard.”
Don’t be focused on the content of the compliment when receiving one, but rather focus on receiving the compliment. And don’t forget to smile!
Tips on how to motivate yourself to get fit are awesome, because they push you to make the first step towards a healthier lifestyle. However, motivation with time wears off. It is inevitable to lose your initial motivation to get fit. So what can you do to stay fit even when you’ve lost your motivation?
What can you do to get fit if you lose your motivation?
The health magazine guides suggest many creative ways to find something that will motivate you to get fit:
There. Bruno follows me around, so my workout gear is in a visible place.
Put workout gear in a visible place
Buy expensive new workout wear
Log workouts online
Get a workout buddy
Share motivational quotes on social media
Follow people who inspire you
I think all this is just BrunoPoo.
If your motivation to get fit is to justify buying expensive workout wear, then I bet you’ll be skipping workouts at the end of your second week.
A workout buddy will bail on you with time, because it is impossible to synchronize your schedule with a friend in a long run.
Reading inspiring quotes and looking at pictures of fit girls won’t make you magically appear at the gym.
How to find motivation to get fit and stay fit
Whatever your initial motivation was to get fit, chances are that motivating factor is gone by now. Are you searching for long term motivation? There are only 2 things that can motivate you to make a big change and stick to it in the long run.
What are the 2 most powerful motivators to get fit and stay fit in the long run?
#1. Motivation to get fit: Fear
Fear is the most powerful motivator. Use it.
If you are afraid of having a heart attack, it’s great. That is your motivation to start living a more healthy lifestyle.
If you watched your grandmother struggle from Osteoarthritis as a result of obesity, and you fear that it runs in the family, then it’s time to use that fear as motivation.
My mother suffers from severe migraines as a result of stress, unhealthy lifestyle and lack of exercise. I couldn’t change her mind about the importance of workout, no matter how hard I tried. I didn’t wanted to end up like her, so I started doing yoga for stress relief. Started eating healthy, drinking plenty of water, getting plenty of sleep. The occurrence of my migraines dropped significantly.
One day I was walking past a school where young parents were waiting for their children. They are all younger than me, and already had children in school. I realized that I am over 30 and I still don’t have kids. If I decide to start a family of my own, I’ll be the oldest mom there waiting outside a primary elementary school to collect my child. I’ll have wrinkles, back pain and myriad health problems due to my obesity. It was then that I’ve decided that I don’t want to be that mom. I will lose the excess weight. Changed my bad habits into healthy ones. Started using sunscreen religiously.
Find what you fear the most and use it to motivate yourself towards big achievements.
#2. Motivation to stay fit: Habit
I started losing weight when I was obese because I wanted to live by leading a healthy lifestyle.
I started to work out because I was overweight and I wanted to look good for my wedding (mission accomplished).
This expensive aerobic workout should be motivating enough to regularly attend the classes.
Then being able to carry all my groceries in one trip felt awesome.
Then I discovered that it’s called bodybuilding because you CAN sculpt yourself a body you want. Now I am experimenting with building myself a better booty. It never stops. Once I jumped on the fitness bandwagon and saw result, I was hooked. Working out became a habit.
When you start doing a morning sun salutation yoga stretching right after you get out of bed tricking your brain still in sleep mode unable to come up with reason why you shouldn’t do it, it becomes a habit. You just get out of bed and head to your yoga mat and start stretching. By the time your brain wakes up, your done. And you feel like you’ve already achieved something today. Habit is what keeps you going in the long run.
So your best bet to stick with your workout when your motivation is gone? Use your deepest fear as a motivator to get fit. Make workout a habit. That’s it.
One more thing: by making your workout constant, it helps you keep things in your life together. Your job is a mess, your relationship is falling apart, family is a disaster. The moment you hit the gym, all that vanishes, it’s only you and your workout.
FITspiration Friday! Yey! Summer is approaching, and if you want a better booty and toned arms, you need to do something about it! What could you do to have Victoria's Secret models' arms and booty in a bikini? Start this 3 day workout routine! After just 1 week, I (and my husband) can see significant improvements on my booty! I can't imagine how my booty will look at the end of the 4th week!
Clicking on the exercise will take you to a video showing you how to perform the exercise properly. So all you need to do after watching the videos is head to the gym and start building yourself a better booty and toned arms for summer!
The Build a better booty workout program is a 2 day per week routine, but on the original website its from you can choose a 1, 2 and 3 day glutes program – based on how much time you have left until summer bikini season. If you are looking for a more intense arm toning workout, I suggest checking out Muscle & Strength.
Go on girl, head to the gym and build yourself a better booty and toned arms for summer! Jump on the bandwagon and subscribe for weekly updates by clicking here>>>
Do you get lifestyle advice based on personal opinion from people now that you are fit? Are those actually rude remarks about you being fit or advice that you would never hear if you were still fat? Learn how to respond to the rude things people tell you after you become fit that they would never tell the fat you!
Here are the most common advice people give after you become fit that they would never tell you while you were fat:
Rude remark #1: “You looked better fat…”
Do they believe that I will suddenly realize that I am way too fit (there’s no such thing) and I start shoveling in cupcakes after cupcakes until I become fatter than they are? Yes, they secretly hope so that I will. This would make them comfortable with the fact that they are overweight themselves. Let’s admit it: who wants to be reminded that their unhealthy weight surplus is something they could also work on?
People who say this believe that they are being honest and open with you. However, they would never ever say anything about you being too chubby while you were obese, because they consider it rude.
So how the heck is it acceptable in their head to comment your weight when you are fit and unacceptable to comment on your weight back when you were fat???
Obesity is okay because you can’t do anything about it, and being fit is not okay because you worked your ass and fat off for looking like this. [Tweet this!]
What they don’t know is that having a huge body is also a lot of work: you need to eat a lot of food for a lot of days to gain so much weight that will put you in the obese spectrum.
“Julie, I swear you looked better while you had those excess 50 pounds!”
The hardest people are the ones who were once fit with little or no effort at all, but with aging they started to gain weight. Now they are on the edge of overweight/obese. They feel the worst when they see you, the girl formerly known as fat rocking those skinny pants and tank top. Well, heck, life is being unfair to them! You should not be looking like a 10 (see the “genetically gifted” Angels for reference) since you are now also over 30 years old. You should have more excess belly fat and a hundred of excuses of why you are not being able to lose weight and keep it off! The universe is just playing a trick on them by magically turning their forever fat friend into a Victoria’s Secret model. So they better fix this injustice by convincing you to stop. Just turn back into your normal old crappy fat self like Cinderella at the stroke of midnight. So they can go back to their everyday lives of no exercise and stop thinking about that belly fat of theirs being unhealthy.
Or you might have heard the “mild” version of it, the:
“You looked cuter when you were chubby”.
There is something seriously wrong in the head with these people if they believe that commenting on you being way too fit is appropriate, but commenting on someone’s weight if they are fat is just rude.
Choose your reaction to the rude comment wisely (depending on mood or your level of willingness to stay friends):
Response #1: If you know that you are in a healthy weight and body range, then you might as well just ignore them.
Response #2: Politely ask for their opinion of why they think that you looked better fat instead of fit. You’ll be surprised at their reaction.
Response #3: If you are really pissed off, turn into your rude Hulk self and in your most polite voice tell them:
“Well, you looked better fit/single/before having kids.”
So let’s see another good advice people will give you after you become fit that you never got while being fat.
Rude remark #2: “You got sick because you’re working out too much!”
Just screw you (excuse my language). I got sick because I’ve caught a virus from your child which he bought home from kindergarten and you’ve spread it at the office.
You injured your knee? Yeah, you should not work out that much. All that weight lifting is bad for your knees, you know. I will give you work advice I’ve heard from other fat people who occasionally visit the gym and come up with excuses why they should not make it a habit. Going to the gym 3 times a week and doing zumba as cardio is bad for you in the long run. I told you so it’s going to end badly.
“So we can agree to ignore Jim here because he’ll certainly break his leg from all that rock climbing he’s been doing and miss the presentation of our project.”
These are the people who know that they should work out, and they see you do it. They are feeling bad because they don’t do it. So when an opportunity presents itself when they can blame your active, healthy lifestyle for some of the accidents or unexpected things that happen to you, they jump in. But you don’t hear them blaming fat people’s injuries and sickness for the lack of workout they are getting.
Your reaction to these comments could be that you just mention:
Response #1:“Remember that yesterday you had a headache after eating all that leftover birthday cake right after your pizza breakfast? All those carbs gave you Hyperglycemia, that’s why you’ve felt so lethargic lately.”
Response #2: “You know how you get exhausted when the elevator is out of order and you have to use the stairs to reach the 2nd floor? That’s because you don’t work out at all.”
Did you notice that:
it’s always the unfit people commenting on your fit body, never the fit ones, because
fit people know how much effort it takes to look fit, so they appreciate the amount of work you’ve put into it and your commitment.
Don’t get discouraged by rude comments from people who are overweight themselves or not leading a healthy lifestyle. It’s their own insecurities they are projecting onto you.
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Remember how I shared my current workout routine for building a better booty? Well, starting this week I felt the need to shape my arms as well. I did this by adjusting my gym time from 2 to 3 times a week by adding a day where I tone my arms.
So starting this week a better booty workout routine changes to better booty plus arms workout!
And because it’s hard for me to remember the names of the workout or how to properly perform them, I wrote a cute cheat-sheet with stick figures performing the exercises.
Stick figures toning their arms for summer
This is an easy arm toning workout that you can incorporate into your current workout routine once a week. If you are looking for a more intense arm toning workout, I suggest checking out the Muscle & Strength website.
This 1 day arm toning workout routine is what I do between the 2 days build a better booty workout routine. I felt the need to add one more day of gym time where my booty and leg muscles rest, because the built a better booty workout routine is pretty intense.
My 3-day a week gym time looks something like this:
Go on girl, head to the gym and build yourself a better booty and toned arms for summer! Jump on the bandwagon and subscribe for weekly updates by clicking here>>>
After significant weight loss, friends, coworkers and acquaintances will start noticing your new found body. They will feel like it is time for them to compliment you on your new fit body. How can you accept these compliments without being rude or seeming awkward?
Tips on how to motivate yourself to get fit are awesome, because they push you to make the first step towards a healthier lifestyle. However, motivation with time wears off. It is inevitable to lose your initial motivation to get fit. So what can you do to stay fit even when you’ve lost your motivation?
FITspiration Friday! Yey! Summer is approaching, and if you want a better booty and toned arms, you need to do something about it! What could you do to have Victoria's Secret models' arms and booty in a bikini? Start this 3 day workout routine! After just 1 week, I (and my husband) can see significant improvements on my booty! I can't imagine how my booty will look at the end of the 4th week!
Day 1 – Booty day
Day 2 – Arm toning day
Do you get lifestyle advice based on personal opinion from people now that you are fit? Are those actually rude remarks about you being fit or advice that you would never hear if you were still fat? Learn how to respond to the rude things people tell you after you become fit that they would never tell the fat you!
Remember how I shared my current workout routine for 